C.S. Lewis put a collection of journal entries about the struggles he endured with grief after the death of his wife. These collections of his grieving thoughts was later put into a book called, A Grief Observed, and is a best seller. I love this book because he shows the reader that he is human just like everyone else and he went through the pain and suffering of losing a loved one like many people have. In the pieces that I read, his thoughts are even more relevent to someone who can't get over the loss of a loved one and has gone mad in a way. He descrribes his feelings of trying to keep her even though she's gone. He states that people try to keep the same rituals going even when the person isn't there. Just like how Queen Victoria became a little crazy after the death of her husband. She would have her deceased husband's clothes put out for dinner every evening. Lewis describes it as "It made the dead far more dead". I believe people who do these have not accepted the fact that their loved one is gone and will no longer be here to experience maybe dinner together or celebrated an anniversary together or so on. People don't like to let go and Lewis' comments about this is so relevant to anyone that is having a hard time letting go... no matter if you are the Queen of England, a famous writer, or just Jane Doe who isn't well known. He is right when he states that people need to realize that doing these things will keep your longing for them to be alive again and "emphasizes their deadness". He has come to a realization that he can't keep holding on if he wants to remember her. HE HAS TO MOVE ON.... and this passage could definately be a good thing for someone to read who is going through the same thing he is. This book is definitely about real and personal experience which makes this even more interesting to read.
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